Thursday, November 10, 2005

Timing...Kismet...Fate?


Take a look at
demandnlilchit's entry on meeting her now husband. It is quite a journey. My mom also said she knew she was going to marry my dad the first time she saw him. Do you think "Love at First Sight" is always the case? I don't think so. I mean sometimes some people just "grow on you" over time.

Now the idea of timing or Kismet or fate....do you believe in it?

Just seems odd, I mean what about all the people who say it is true & then end up divorced? Anyone tracking this? Just seems like hindsight bias to me, but then what do I know? Ha!

PS:

Well, first what is up with the font size of the journal? Huge? I didn't change all these!

Some comments worth thinking about:

"I think everyone you meet is brought into your life for a reason, even when love ends up in divorce that person was supposed to be in your life at that time, does that mean it wasn't love? No, it was love but it was love on a timer, I think every affair of the heart brings you closer and closer to who you are destined to be with, brings you to the truest love. Just think of everyone who has had a hand in molding who you are, so even the person in your life that you married then divorced had a hand in who you are. Even divorced people had love, it just wasn't the right love. their truest love. Kinda like the old saying, "You have to kiss a lot of frogs before the right one turns into your prince charming! lol" - demandnlilchit

I'd have to agree with that I suppose. Did you see Brian's (The Love Train) frog? Ha!

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"I'm not sure if i believe in love at first sight or not.. but never say never!
each day that you wake up you are changed in some way.. we change constantly. Sometimes people wind up divorced because they didn't change at the same pace or changed in different ways.. i believe the love was still there." - deslily

I think this is true also. It is amazing how you can still feel love for someone even when they were not very nice to you. You can love who they were at a particular time & for their potential you see.

6 comments:

lurkynat said...

Dear D,
uh...there;s alot that goes into it..friendship and toil right?
learning to spend days adn nights palnning and spending and sharing life...jeee
that's alot!love,nat

rap4143 said...

I have know my husband all my life.  My Dad coached him in Little League and he  was our Sunday paperboy.  We are married for a long time...we had our ups and downs like any other married couple.
Betty

demandnlilchit said...

I think everyone you meet is brought into your life for a reason, even when love ends up in divorce that person was supposed to be in your life at that time, does that mean it wasn't love? No, it was love but it was love on a timer, I think every affair of the heart brings you closer and closer to who you are destined to be with, brings you to the truest love. Just think of everyone who has had a hand in molding who you are, so even the person in your life that you married then divorced had a hand in who you are. Even divorced people had love, it just wasn't the right love. their truest love. Kinda like the old saying, "You have to kiss a lot of frogs before the right one turns into your prince charming! lol

deslily said...

I'm not sure if i believe in love at first sight or not.. but never say never!
each day that you wake up you are changed in some way.. we change constantly. Sometimes people wind up divorced because they didn't change at the same pace or changed in different ways.. i believe the love was still there.

swtdlphn24 said...

I believe in love at first site. I've had it happen. But, it's just like demandnlilchit said...."Everyone is brought into your life for a reason." "Does that mean it wasn't love? No, it was love but it was love on a timer"...and that's what I had...Love on a timer. It lasted a little over a year..and it was a wonderful year while it last. But, our paths took us in different directions.

~Tina

swibirun said...

I believe in instant attraction that leads to the possibility of formation of love.  But I don't think I could love someone (as I define love) after even knowing them for a few weeks.

Chris
http://journals.aol.com/swibirun/Inanethoughtsandinsaneramblings
http://www.bigoven.com/~swibirun