Sunday, February 17, 2008

Defintiley, Maybe


I went to see Definitley, Maybe yesterday & it was pretty good. I liked the idea of the message and the main guy...well he kinda grew on me. When he smiled he was a lot cuter....true of a lot of men! :-) (And ya they probably say that about us too!) I liked how he also kept trying for love too. That was heartwarming! And the part where he looks and finds the book (you'll have to see) that his heart wants to do this for her & then why he says he kept it. SIGH...yes I was sobbing!

So the idea is his daughter wants to know the story of her mom & dad meeting & falling in love. He is about to sign papers to divorce his wife. First let me tell you there is one part I found a bit unrealistic...no...in  movie...ha! He goes to pick up his daughter from school & finds it in chaos...it looks like some tragic accident or terrorist situation with parents frantic with their children. What is the problem...the kids had "sex education" and are going nuts. They are all upset asking their parents if they did this act etc. I was like O...M...G! RIGHT! BTW...I would not be bringing your kids to this movie if you don't want to have them asking you about this subject. They are pretty graphic "P. is THRUSTED in V." etc. Ha! The father is like "They did not say Thrusted" and his daughter is like "Yes she did!" Ha! Then he doesn't want her to use P. and wants to make it a baby name & it was funny because I was listening to Eve Ensler on my XM radio talking about the VDay that will be in New Orleans pretty soon & she mentioned how society has all these names for V. & it makes women feel more ashamed or embarrassed etc rather than feeling empowered & confident. Very interesting idea. It is a very fine line & especially how some (you heard me say 'some'!) men feel if you are confident.

So, the story is kinda cute & basically I did like the message at the end which is...life winds around many turns & takes many different paths but then eventually you end up with the person you fit with, you love really...SIGH...I like that idea soooo very much! And really it gets back that to my belief that everything happens for a reason & a purpose and how I posted LONG time ago about Lanbirynths (below) explaining life. Pleasedon't get from me I'm promoting divorce but I'm also not promoting staying married for the sake of the children or just because of a promise that really one or neither are committed to anymore or will not work on. I'm not for people being miserable & not having love in their life. Now I think they should work on it but if they won't there is nothing you can do about it and this is why the research shows that staying married for the sake of the children is actually a bad idea. Of course if you get a divorce & continue to fight etc afterwards then it will have the same consequences on the kids. Well let me know what you think if you have seen it or if you do...

4 comments:

swibirun said...

I'll have to go see that with Alexis.  We like romantic comedies and this one seems cute.  You reaffirmed my thoughts.

mariealicejoan said...

My mom and dad stayed together for 32 years for the sake of the children, and in the meantime put us through the wringer with all of the heartache, fighting etc.  It was still a really big wrench when they finally did get divorced so I am not sure what is the right thing to do, maybe take more care in marrying the right person in the first place?
Marie
http://journals.aol.co.uk/mariealicejoan/MariesMuses/

sunnyside46 said...

I used to pray my parents would get divorced.
Im  in my marriage fo rthe long haul....sometimes I wonder why, but I dont' want to be without him ever, even if sometimes I dont want to be with him....he's my other half, sometimes you dont' have a choice, it's a power bigger than both of you, it's the love that's there beyond all reason.
Marti

sunnyside46 said...

I used to pray my parents would get divorced.
Im  in my marriage fo rthe long haul....sometimes I wonder why, but I dont' want to be without him ever, even if sometimes I dont want to be with him....he's my other half, sometimes you dont' have a choice, it's a power bigger than both of you, it's the love that's there beyond all reason.
Marti